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I was a legacy to one place through my mother and another through my grandmother, and two VERY IMPORTANT things my mother and grandmother did were:
1) NOT tell me that *some* houses have a policy that if a legacy is invited to pref, she is placed on the first bid list, and
2) remind me that chapters are different at each school, so I shouldn't feel any pressure to join ABC or XYZ because they might not be the right chapter for me at my school (actually, their words were, "After all, we don't know...they might be AWFUL at your school!" That may sound sort of negative, but it worked well for an 18-year-old girl!).
This prevented any false hopes going into later rounds...it never is good to tell your daughter that she has an advantage being a legacy...and also gave me an 'out', both in terms of cutting legacy houses and getting cut by them....I am so grateful to this day for that!
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