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Originally Posted by kddani
Membership selection is confidential and no one can answer your question accurately.
Ideas:
- She did not maximize her options
- She did something her freshman year that earned her a bad reputation
- HS accolades mean very little for a sophomore
- She's up against hundreds of other "perfect" girls and just wasn't memorable.
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1 - Maybe, but she did have 12 solidly on her "very
interested in" list going in. She was cut by all but one after second round.
2 - Always possible but highly doubtful.
3 - Agree, but the hit parade continues in college (3.9 is college gpa, HS was 4.3, leadership positions in several organizations, etc). "I love Athens!" was all I heard everytime I talked to her.
4 - Glad you put quotes around perfect. I think this would be more believable had she not been cut so severely so early. A 10 minute visit only confirms your predisposition.
I appreciate the attempts at answering what I guess was my true question, the one about sophomores. Some of them have validity but I do think that they are short-sighted when compared to what is missed by so easily dismissing this (or these) girls. No easy solution here but I am troubled by it. Never seemed to be a problem "back in the day".
I understand that there will never be any true answer to what happened. We had talked about what could happen before she went, I just never thought
this really would. "Trust the process, you'll end up where you belong" was the mantra repeated over and over. I now feel like the general telling a mom that the battle went as planned and we won, So sorry your son got killed. Luckily, this young lady will be fine. Hurt but she will recover. I doubt, however, I can ever be as enthusiastic about trusting the process again. This was a train wreck.