Dear Greek Stress:
As a mom I know the hours of stress and what ifs. As I said in my thread about my rush in the early 70's I went into a house where the girl and I had no interest in each other. Not her fault or mine...it happens. And yes, by day 3 or 4 everyone is exhausted and can say/do things that would not be to their advantage...but everyone is under the same stressful conditions.
And lest you think that I don't know...as a mother....how awful rush can be: The night before Pref my daughter (who just graduated from college and is just fine) was dropped from the house that she wanted to pledge because her Active accidently came out to her. (Told my daughter that she is a lesbian). Since she had been rushed "hard" as they put it in my day (the President/Rush Chairman/best girls and her best friend) were always coming over to say hi...I can't imagine what was said in the meeting by the Active. But it was over. And she moved on. I never said a word about what if to her...just I am so sorry. (And trust me I wanted to say more.
) And girls at this age can be brainless/rude....