[nikki1920]

My parents were never helicoptering. My mom was the room mom because everyone liked her. She advocated for me twice during my whole time in school: once because I was having issues with math (8th grade) and again when my teacher gave me an unfair grade (advanced English class, got a D on a paper when I had followed all the instructions, had another teacher review it after the grade. Mind, I had recieved all As on previous papers. She went to the teacher and then the principal when that meeting didn't provide her answers. The grade was eventually changed.) She and my father did not do projects for me, did not harrass the teachers when I earned a low grade, didn't choose classes for me and did not pressure me into doing extracurricular activities.

I like AGDee's example of using the resources to motivate and encourage her children, that is what my parents did when I struggled in school. That is what I do now with my daughter. I will encourage and support her, but not do her work for her.