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Have you tried using the fact that you are smaller to your advantage?

There are girls going through recruitment who are only looking for status. Give them up as a lost cause, because they will never want you nor, if you're being truly honest with yourself, will you ever want them. They are not right for your group.

But there are girls going through formal lookng for a tight-knit sisterhood that they truly mesh with and you have that. (It's a lot easier to get to know 16 girls really, really well than 75.) My sorority intentionally pledges below quota every year because that what distinguishes us from other groups on campus. We look at it as a benefit, not a disadvantage. We look at it as being selective, rather than taking-whatever-we-can-get.

Also push leadership opportunities! It much easier to get involved in a smaller sorority. (Be careful though to not make it sound like "we NEED you to be a leader"...)

It's one of the reasons I declined my bid from XYZ and went for this chapter.

I bet also that if you stop looking at your small size as a disadvantage and a sign that "something is wrong with you" and see it as an asset, your recruitment style will change. The PNMs will notice your confidence and really want to be a member of your close sisterhood.