[irishpipes]

If your post is truthful, and the PNMs going through recruitment are almost all the legally blonde type, except for the 3-4 that pledge your sorority, then your problem isn't conversation skills - it's that the PNMs don't mesh with your chapter. It sounds more like you need to encourage more girls who are like the girls in your chapter to go through recruitment, or find them through COR. I mean, improved conversation skills are great, but if your group of friends is truly nothing like the PNMs going through recruitment, then through mutual selection it makes sense that you don't want each other. Either expand your membership base to include some legally blondes, or COR for the kind of girls you want.