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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet
That natural parenting instinct is a myth.
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GET THAT SAID!!! It is learned.
On a related note:
If I hear ONE MORE PERSON talk about the natural maternal instinct (or how women
naturally fantasize about their dream mate and fantasy wedding since childhood---different topic
) I am going to SCREAM. If more women socially felt that they could abandon their responsibilities, there would be more deadbeat mothers than there are--not because more women would be defying nature but because more women would be defying socialization.
I'm not saying that this would be liberating to women but it is a realistic depiction of what childrearing and parenting are about--learned roles and duties.
Being able to have children and be involved in nurturing and child rearing is as much, if not more, learned (and sometimes forced) as it is natural. When men have no choice but to be the sole nurturers and caregivers for children, they are fully capable of doing everything except for the childbirth-related stuff.