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Originally Posted by kddani
Yep, everyone's initial impressions on this thread were right. You want the big white wedding more than a marriage.
As has been said above, sometimes life doesn't work out the way you plan on it.
Since the "marriage" is just going to be paperwork and mean nothing else to either of you, the "wedding" is just going to be a big party where you're the star.
(yes, it's harsh but you've put this situation out for public comment).
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I'm not sure I understand why so many people feel this is an either/or situation. Why can't you want a big white wedding
and a marriage??
My husband isn't in the military, but for us, honestly, the paperwork was just that - paperwork. It was necessary, official stuff, but hardly anything exciting or emotionally meaningful. The wedding was a party we put on for our family and friends, telling them they were all stuck with the two of us being together. The marriage itself (our commitment to one another and our life together) is really essentially unrelated to either the paperwork or the wedding - those were just outward signs of it, one boring and one fun.