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I think Blackwatch brings up a CRITICAL point that alot of people (especially men) fail to realize. He says that some seem to think:

"sex is about a physical compatability or ability to gratify yourself and your partner in a relationship... It's a shame because sex is soooo much more than that"

I couldn't agree more. As I stated in my previous post

"I don't think casual sex is as worthwile and pleasureable as loving/committed sex."

I believe that sex is mental, spiritual, and physical. If you don't include these three powerful elements, your sexual episode will fail to reach its highest potential for satisfaction. Many people have never been "spiritually" gratified during sex. They don't know what they are missing! Alot of people haven't been mentally gratified...they get dissapointed. These aspects of sex are kind of abstract. The most readily Identifiable aspect of sex is the physical, and not getting gratified on this level is what many people focus on. They are really selling themselves short! If you really want be satisfied, you should try and connect ALL 3...but hey...some people are cool with settling.

I agree that the spiritual aspect of sex is important. But the physical aspect is IMPORTANT TOO! God made sex feel good ON PURPOSE! It's sole intention is not just for procreation. Its also a means to PHYSICALLY express your love for someone. If you can't do that, then there is a lack. I can tell someone I love them all day, but if I can't EXPRESS that love...verbally or in my actions, then there will be a lack. Just because you pray and have faith isn't gonna make everything alright. Faith with out acts is dead. Many people don't deal with the physical issues involved in sex, and retreat to spritual anecdotes. You have to APPLY that stuff. Just telling someone...you're my wife...I love you...now blow me. That woun't make everything all better. If they have issues about "checkin the mic" thats not gonna do it. You have to talk with her and see what the problem is and if she's even WILLING to work on it. Some have posted here who think "checkin the mic" or giving a woman a "taste test" is a SIN.

My point is the physical is just as important as the spiritual aspect. I don't think the spiritual should be ignored, but the physical part shouldn't be ignored either. The best way to see if you are on the same page physically is to crush before marriage. Sexual compatibility doesnt = Marital compatibility. Of course there's more to it then just having great sex...but were talking about sex in this forum...not the other aspects of marriage.