[FuzzieAlum]

I totally agree with what Volgirl said. It's my experience that when the chapter starts getting hung up over flyers, or what kind of napkins to get for pref, or t-shirts, they is a bigger problem going on. Maybe it's trite, but it sounds like sisterhood has gotten pushed aside for the moment. Who will care 10 years from now what flyers you got? Sure, the expensive ones are a bad idea, but if the girls who want them get them and then find themselves strapped for cash, they will learn the frugality lesson more thoroughly than they ever will by someone else telling them.

For future expenditures - I would think that the chapter's job would be to set a maximum spending limit on an item or event, and then a committee's (even if it's just two girls) job to execute it. That's generally the way we worked it. If they go over their limit, only reimburse them up to their limit.

And definitely, take time out for a retreat. Sit around in jammies and drink cocoa and do something like a "gavel pass" where you share your gripes and a "bear pass" where you share your happy thoughts. You know what they say about all work and no play ...

Have you thought about getting an advisor for your group? Maybe there is a faculty member who is Greek, or a nearby alum of some chapter who is willing to help you out?