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2 things came to mind, one, you can go do the courthouse thing for all the practical reasons you mentioned, you can tell no one or just your parents and closest friends, why you're doing that makes total sense. Then just go on with the wedding plans as you have them laid out. You will be legally married, but anyone who knows you and knows you want a "real" wedding will know that you two standing in front of a magistrate and then him shipping back out for a year is nowhere near the same thing. I don't think anyone would begrudge you your "real" big day. (and if they do, forget 'em)
The second thought is, if you would feel the other way is "deceiving", why not just fashion your invitations and the theme of the day to a vow-renewal and emphasize what it is, a chance for you to celebrate with your family and friends the "right" way and to let you two have the wedding you'd dreamed of (and celebrate his coming home safely -- that's worth a big party of its own!). Again, anyone who would begrudge you taking the technical step you did to fit in with his military schedule and benefits isn't worth worrying about anyway. I don't see why you couldn't still have a bachelorette party or register, again, it's not like you're doing either of those before your courthouse visit.
You just need to do you and move forward on the path that fits your lives. Anyone worth their salt will happily change paths with you when necessary, if they don't, let them move on down their road. Don't make your life decisions based on what you're worried other people will think, make the decisions that make sense and bring happiness to YOU. And enjoy his visit home, that time goes by way too fast.
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