Well, since I'm bored to death and procrastinating in light of what I'm *really* supposed to be doing, I'll just chime in here. LOL. Ok, when I was about 26, I was asked by a Link to submit to start the process for submitting oneself to try to become a Link for her chapter. I, honestly, initially had the same gut reaction,- why would I want to hang around with a bunch of 50 year olds ... and pay all that money to do so? I'm not going to lie. But I, of course, did not say this to her b/c I highly admire this woman and she was a bit of a mentor to me (not to mention that she was the mother of the guy that I was dating at that time LOL). Now, but that was just me. To each her own. And there's nothing wrong with whatever decision to which another woman may come.
So SMC, I guess that I would say that I understand your sentiment. However, the answer is ... to each her own. Each woman is different and that's the answer to the rhetorical question that you raised (although I know that they, by definition, are not asked to receive answers)
SC