I appreciate the article for its honesty because I imagine that dating can be frustrating at times.
What I do not appreciate is bashing black women who lack formal education or who have no career. They may have jobs, but not a career. It seems to me that the article finds it unfair that these black women find love and professional women do not. Somehow being college educated and professionally driven entitles them to the Pefect Man and a Storybook Marriage. Sorry, that is not the case.
Since the writer used popular black movies to make a point... I'll do the same.
In Best Man, Mia was a smart student and that is how she got Morris' attention in the first place.. she was not a groupie pining for him every second. To call her "a ditz with no career" made no sense.
In Soul Food, Vanessa Williams lost her husband because she did not support his dream and she forgot how to have fun. Her job dominated too much of her life. It is that simple. She did not balance her life and that can happen to any woman regardless of her education level or career status. I mean, afterall, it is one thing to get married, it is quite another to make it work. I think her storyline served as a cautionary tale about letting career steer your entire existence. Of course, that does not excuse her trifling husband for cheating nor does it excuse the family for always sucking up to her for money.
Vivica's character made the choice to be a wife and mother and there is nothing wrong with that. Devoting yourself to your family is admirable. If anything, women who make this choice are mercilessly ridiculed and it was good to see some focus on someone like her.
Sorry for the long reply y'all.
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