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I've seen a few people quit their GLOs as actives and pledges when I was in school. They all regretted it. One of our pledges (we called them that back then) was on the fence about joining. She was having problems with her boyfriend and a few members of her pledge class. I tried to encourage her to stick with it since initiation was in two weeks and in my opinion she would have made an excellent sister. She ultimately depledged one week prior to initiation much to the diappointment of all of the sisters. The next semester she regretted it and wanted to be initiated. Since she would have to pledge all over again, she decided not to do it. I don't want to see you make the same mistake and have the same regrets.
The bonds of SAE brotherhood will last for a lifetime. Right now you are clearly going through a difficult time and those pledge brothers are a major cause of it. If you still want to be an SAE, you need to figure out how to stand up for yourself to the guys giving you a hard time. That remark about your girlfriend was completely unacceptable and should not be tolerated by you or her. The unfortunate thing about people is that you can't change them. You can only change your reaction to them. Maybe you need to change your approach. If you lighten up and laugh them off, they might get sick of being a$$holes to you. In life you will always have personality clashes with other people and this can actually be a good life lesson for you. You seem to have your priorities in order. Focus on your grades, your job, and your fraternity. Your fraternity should have the resources to help you. I think that you should talk to the president, pledge trainer, and your big brother. Ask them for suggestions and advice about this situation. Good luck!
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