I am truely sorry about your friend's situation and I understand her frustration. However, if the guy offered to pay for an abortion then your friend should have had an idea that he didn't want the responsibility of a baby right now. I am sure that his behavior during the early stages of this situation had to be a warning signal to her that he wasn't willing to stick around. If their relationship soured because of the baby and the arguement of whether or not to keep it, then your friend should have had a pretty good warning that this guy would not stand by her or be willing to support a baby.
I know too many guys immediately spout out that abortion is the answer to an unwanted or unplanned pregnancy, but not all guys do it because they are selfish (like this guy apparently is). Anytime there is a question about bringing another life into this world, I think that everyone involved should take a long, hard SERIOUS look at whether or not that baby will be provided for and how prepared the parents are to shoulder the responsibility of caring for another life. Some people are just not able or prepared to take on such a responsibility, especially when the pregancy is an accident. In cases such as that, it may be a more rational decision to have the abortion. I know most everyone has very strong feelings or opinions about abortion, and I'm not trying to start a Flamer here.
I just know of several friends who had to deal with just this decision, myself included. Some may call it selfishness, but I personally do not want to bring another life into this world unless I am capable and prepared to provide for that life to the fullest of my abilities. It is apparent that this guy was not mature enough or MAN enough to take responsibility for his actions. I feel that your friend really needs to pursue legal action against the father in order to gain support. There are programs that will garnish his wages and take a child support payment straight out of his paycheck. There are some guys that will NEVER take responsibility for their part in having a child...they don't want to see it, talk to it or even THINK about it. It's a way that many of the JERKS in the world deal with things...if they can't see it, it doesn't exist. I am sorry your friend didn't see this guy's true colors until it was too late.
The biggest concern here should be about this baby. Please tell me that it is being cared for and provided with all the necessary things that babies need. I applaud your friend for having the courage to take responsibility for her mistakes, but I just hope that during her quest for support from the father she doesn't loose sight of the most important thing - the health and well being of that innocent life.
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