I am a Pike, but I'm not answering this post as a Pike, or to defend or condemn my fellow Brother in question. I just want to interject some personal thoughts.
First off, what does this guy's status with Pi Kappa Alpha (or ANY fraternity for that matter) have to do with his responsibilities as a father (deadbeat or otherwise)? Unfortunately, there are thousands of non-Greek affiliated men out there that do this exact same thing...I don't see where this guys affiliation with a fraternity has any bearing in this situation.
Second, I hate to diss your friend, but I think I would need to question her mindset as well. It takes two to tango, and in today's world, anyone that has unprotected sex is taking their own life into their hands. It's not like she didn't understand the dangers of STDs or pregnancy. I'm sorry, but I've been with the same woman for nearly 4 years and we STILL use condoms. Also, was this a guy she had been dating for a while or was it a one-night stand kind of thing?
Anyone who has ever been in this position can tell you that no matter how you think you will handle it before it happens, things are COMPLETELY different when its staring you in the face. I have personally known some people who have vehement opinions about situations like this, but when the situation hits them, their opinions did a 180.
I don't know about other orgs., but I am not aware of any by-law or rule within Pike that forces a man to be expelled from the fraternity due to bad personal decisions. And I think it is a shame that the girls sorority saw fit to ask her to resign. I actually had a Brother who got his girlfriend pregnant, and all she had to do was go alum, but the sorority stuck by her side (as did my Brother) throughout...of course they ended up getting married and are doing great, but that's not the point.
I am sorry your friend is going through this, but as everyone else here has stated, there is not really anything other than peer pressure that this guys fraternity can do to make him do the right thing. If she wants him to be responsible or be a part in this baby's life if she chooses to keep it, then legal action is the best way for her to go. But keep in mind that even if she decided to give the baby up for adoption, she still has to get his permission or signature on the parental rights release.
PLEASE NOTE: With my comments above, I'm not trying to start an abortion debate here, but I just think that every woman should be able to assess her situation and make the best decision for the future of her life and the life she could bring into this world. If your friend is not prepared or able to handle the responsibility of a baby by herself, and this guy will not assist, then she needs to be aware of all her options.
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