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I don't think that you can make a man get over anything. He has to be ready to let go of his pain, just like any individual who has been through a traumatic experience.
All you can do is give him the space to do it, and let him know that at this moment you are there for him (I was going to say something along the lines of you waiting til he's ready, but I think that is asking a LOT of you- I have no idea how long it make take for dude to be ready).
And I have seen women who completely shut men out too. I know a NUMBER of females who treat men like toys because of how thy have been treated in the past. It's just a sad situation any way you slice it.
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It may be said with rough accuracy that there are three stages in the life of a strong people. First, it is a small power, and fights small powers. Then it is a great power, and fights great powers. Then it is a great power, and fights small powers, but pretends that they are great powers, in order to rekindle the ashes of its ancient emotion and vanity.-- G.K. Chesterton
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