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Originally Posted by gee_ess

As an advisor and an active, I have seen pref ceremonies turn into a "senior memory" event and it is (imo) a disaster. And, these very emotional seniors (who recruitment chairs keep putting in key positions for this night) are not the person these PNM's can relate to at this juncture in their collegiate experience.

I agree with this. One of my friends from another sorority told me about something like this that happened when she went through recruitment. She was at XYZ, and two seniors (who were real sisters as well) had parts in the perf ceremony. One sister was reading, and she started to tear up. The other sister was supposed to read the part that came after hers. They were reading from these notes they'd written, but the other sister was so overwhelmed with emotion that she threw down her paper, reaches over and hugs her sister and they start hugging and bawling for what my friend described as at least 5 minutes.

My friend isn't a cryer, so she was just kind of weirded out. When it came time for conversation, the sister who preffed her was one of the "crying sisters." So she was talking to the sister, and things were going better, until the other sister happens to walk by. THey burst into hugging, tears, and omg I love you, right in front of my frend the PNM. They didn't talk to her until it was almost time for the party to be over.

My friend decided that XYZ cried WAY too much and ended up ranking them LAST out of 3 parties on her final card because she was weirded out by the 2 crying seniors.

So yes, do take it easy on the sobbing and hugging. It can make your party seem like one big "insider sob fest" because the PNMs cannot relate to the things you're crying about. This makes the PNMs feel like an awkward outside observer, rather than an invited guest.