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Originally Posted by gee_ess
As an advisor and an active, I have seen pref ceremonies turn into a "senior memory" event and it is (imo) a disaster. The PNM's have no idea what it feels like to be in a sorority, so actives crying over the great memories or wonderful relationships is a totally foreign concept to them. And, these very emotional seniors (who recruitment chairs keep putting in key positions for this night) are not the person these PNM's can relate to at this juncture in their collegiate experience.
It is important to get into the head of the PNM -not the other girls of your chapter.
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I have to 100% agree w/ this. While it's a very emotional time for the members (especially the seniors), the pref ceremony is not the time for people to blubber on about how much they're miss the sisterhood and how things are important to them. That makes it all about the sisters and not about the PNM. It's definitely important to connect with the PNMs - with eye contact, warm smiles and thoughtful conversation.
Personal story - when I was Recruitment chair for my chapter (quite a while ago) during the last preference party one of the seniors added a little something extra to her part of the ceremony - something along the lines of "I just have to say the seniors have put in a lot of time and energy and this is their last preference party and we've earned it!" It totally ruined things - I could have strangled her.