[wil919]

I recently lavaliered my girlfriend of four years, and I sought out some advice from many brothers, including our ELC who happened to be in town at the time. There really is no tradition around lavaliering, and I did alot of research on the subject only to come up empty handed.

In the eyes of the fraternity, from what I understand, it's not really considered an "Official" piece of jewelry, so I don't think there are any rules governing anything about lavaliering. However, in my chapter, a lavalier hadn't been given in over 5-6 years, and that brother was "slopped" for it... I'll leave it up to your imagination.

I wanted to make the lavaliering a big deal, so I informed the brotherhood about it at our chapter meeting, and it was met with, in my opinion, good response, mainly because I had approached them first about it. I didn't want the chapter to feel as if I had lied to them or been trying to keep it secret, especially because it is "our" letters that she would be wearing.

As for giving a lavalier to a man, I only recommend it if your are TRULY serious about him. If you plan on being together with him for a very long time, i.e. life partners, I would maybe consider it then...