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Most often, it's the parent's fault. They feel obligated to invite someone who gave their kid a onesie when they were born. This happened to my brother when he married and would to me if I ever decided to get married.
I can't tell you how many invites I have simply sent regrets because I didn't know the graduate/bride-to-be. In the case of a graduation party that I don't plan to attend, I follow up with a graduation card and a nice note -- it doesn't cost big bucks and it's a nice gesture. If the family lives in the same town and I would like to go to catch up on things, I take a nominal gift (gift card). Basically, the same for the wedding, however if I attend, I do send a nicer gift or money.
My cousin's daughter is graduating from high school in a couple of weeks. I haven't seen the kid since she WAS a kid and they live about 150 miles away. It's the same thing: we send Christmas cards each year. I got her a card and a $25 Border's Gift Card and I plan to send them with a note to both the graduate and the mother.
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When did GC become Twitter?
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