What does the fact that you guys were moving too fast or that he messed up have to do with the title that you gave yourselves? The fact that you were moving too fast and that he messed up, in my mind, has nothing to do with a title. Therefore, if I can stretch logic a little, I would say, what does the converse (losing the title) have to do with him not messing up and with you not moving too fast?
It's not completely logical (the converse above) but, what does what you're saying having to do with the price of tea in China. If you mess up, you mess up - no matter the title. Ya'll just need to get your collective act together.
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Originally Posted by blakiceanjel
I understand what you're saying, but what if you are committed? I honestly think if someone is going to play around on you they will whether or not you have a title. A bad person might believe that if you don't have the title then you have no reason to be upset, but logical people know the difference.
My situation is a little different. He and I jumped into the relationship too fast, became bf and gf immediately. We were smitten with each other, but he got nervous with how fast everything was moving. He ended up doing something stupid (not cheating so much) and hurting me. We decided it would be better to lose the title and just date. Now we're closer than ever. We spend our whole weekends together, my family loves him (to them he's my bf), he lets me borrow his car, I even have some of my stuff stored in his storage room. But we don't have that title. It bothered me at first, but if he's my acting right I don't need it.
I know it might sound a little naive, but I've been in bad relationships before so I can tell the difference. I think (and I've told him this to which he replied "Maybe".. his version of yeeaaahhh lol) that he's afraid of messing up again. I've tried explaining that even if something bad happened now we'd still be hurt. He's just an over-thinker. lol
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