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Originally Posted by blakiceanjel
Hello all Sisterfriends (and Brotherfriends too):
I have a question. How important is a title in a relationship to you? If you are with a person and they treat you with respect and even (gasp) love, does it matter if you don't have the title of "girlfriend". I'm interested in other people's (ladies and fellas actually) opinion on the subject.
Thank ye
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A title is sort of important to me, only because I want to know where I stand with the person I am dating, and to me having a title is the easiest way to tell. Without the title you may just end up being seen as a good friend that they are able to sleep with, but are not interested in a relationship with. On quite a few occasions I have seen people use the "I don't believe in titles" line to allow them to have all of the benefits of a relationship without having to commit. With that I think you kind of have to feel them out and then decide for yourself if it's important that they declare you their boyfriend/girlfriend. My current boyfriend started out being really against titles in the beginning of our relationship, talking about how they just weren't important to him. I wasn't stressing too much though because although I liked him, I was fine to take things slow. Eventually he started referring to me as his girlfriend, with no pushing or prodding from me for him to adopt the title. Now he doesn't even like it when I jokingly refer to him as my "buddy/friend" in the privacy of our own home because he sees it as something less than the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that we have now. Whatever
