committment is important to me. if i'm going to treat you like you're my bfriend, then i want you to be my bfriend and i want to be your gfriend. if you can't even commit enough to call me that, then.... what are we really?
it's not about the title - it's about us being clear about what's going on or what's not going on. i see too many women get tied up into something that they think is something when it's really nothing ... to him. even though he thinks the world of her, she is looking for more - like committment. if she would have simply asked and clarified her role, she would not be going above and beyond...when it is not called for. so yes, i call my dog a "dog"; i call my house a "house" so if i am a girlfriend, then i want to called a "girlfriend." why should that be any different than anything else? if "girlfriend" is a title, then so be it. what next, wives being called "whatchumacalit"? that's not going to work.
basically, just get you someone ready to commit and stop playing around with these guys. if you stop playing around with him, he might actually miss you long enough to decide that he *does* want you to be (gasp) his "girlfriend."
SC
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Originally Posted by blakiceanjel
Hello all Sisterfriends (and Brotherfriends too):
I have a question. How important is a title in a relationship to you? If you are with a person and they treat you with respect and even (gasp) love, does it matter if you don't have the title of "girlfriend". I'm interested in other people's (ladies and fellas actually) opinion on the subject.
Thank ye
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