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You are being very thoughtful. One minor suggestion that I have in regards to your wording: often people will write "please let us know if we can do anything to help." The thing is, many families are afraid to actually ask for help, even when it is desparately needed.
Is there something specific that you could offer? I recognize this would be easier in the case of a closer friend. I have had three very close friends lose their mothers (very young) to cancer. All three friends were most appreciative of the people who said things such as:
1. I/We would love to bring a meal. Would next Saturday be a day that is good for your family?
2. I will be going to Target/grocery store this afternoon. Is there something that I can pick up for you while I am there?
3. In the case of someone that you are close to, offers to help with laundry, house cleaning, etc are also very appreciated. Offers of childcare while the family writes acknowlegments are also appreciated.
Again, some of the above are going to be specific to certain situations/families, but these are designed to help you get ideas rolling. You can also file them away for future needs too. All three of my friends lost their mothers while we were in our 20s.
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