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Originally Posted by tld221
for some, marriage is just a formality. maybe its better to wait til they know they want/need to be married, than to do it just because they have kids and then divorce later. then it gets messy with custody and child support and what not.
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But they've already had the kids. There's nothing that marriage and divorce would really complicate in terms of custody and child support if they split. Avoiding marrying the mother or father of your child doesn't really decrease your legal obligation for child support.
I guess it's a reflection of the culture in which I was raised, but I just don't understand what it is you are holding out for in a relationship to find it marriage worthy if you are willing to live with and have multiple kids with the same person, particularly if the relationship goes on for a long time. I guess marriage is just a formality, although it does actually have some legal benefits, but it seems like it'd be a desirable one.
Nittanyalum, I see your point about perhaps she's the reluctant one, but again, having four kids with him doesn't really seem like she's playing it safe.
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