Having had my share of rejection....
....I felt compelled to respond.
Over the years, time and time again, I have been rejected from women, in dating relationships, courtships, and marriages.
As a result, according to my pastor, I have a stronghold spirit of rejection that I cannot shake, and as of recently, has intensified.
Part of the reason for this stronghold was due to my inability to discern spirits from women, i.e. I could not distinguish a woman who truly wanted to be my friend from one who had a hidden agenda on why they wanted to get with me. As a result, I have been tolerated but never really loved. To this day, I don't make attempts to meet women or to ask them out, b/c I think of the consequences and remain silent. The problem is that too many women wanted to be my lover and mate before they wanted to be my friend. When they discover my true self and character, they get disgusted, repulsed, and "run away". In my defense, they set themselves up for it in the process.
So, to answer your question, how does a girl get a guy to trust,
1. BE GENUINE! Come to a guy with no hidden agendas and no "plans". Reach out to him as much as you can without being overbearing.
2. BE PATIENT! After all, you are dealing with someone who has repressed a lot of emotional baggage. It will not dissolve overnight. If you sense that he doesn't trust you at times, don't take it personal--it is just a purging of that rejection spirit. The more you reach to the core of his heart, the more he will trust you--and reach out to you too.
3. BE WILLING! Meaning: learn the good AND the bad things about him. Too many romantically charged people overlook the bad things about their significant other, and don't really know the full impact about such until it's too late.
4. BE A (PLATONIC) FRIEND! If you are down for him in any situation, he will recognize that and probably feel a conviction to reciprocate towards you in such a fashion. If nothing else comes of your friendship, you will have given him the much-needed confidence and self-esteem necessary to initiate friendships with other women. At best, once the two of you make it over some rough times, you are well on the road to experiencing true love.
Hope this helps you.
RM
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