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Originally Posted by brownsugardivah
Well as I stated those are the views that people have. I am a sweetheart in a graduate level so I really dont get into what sororities have to say about auxiliaries. Im not in their organization so their validation means nothing to me. If certain members of orgs want to walk around with superior attitudes but arent doing any work in their organization or community. Im not here to judge nobody what they do or dont do is their business. But keep that stuff away from me...dont come to me like your better than me because they have 2 more letters than me but arent doing anything to uphold them...doing more damage than anything. So they dont say nothing to me I say nothing to them... and yes I dont mind helping organizations in my community succeed. But Ive been doing this before Iota... so until I join a 3 letter org I just observe. Dont really like what I have been observing where I am....so I continue to stay assisting the Iotas and paving my OWN way as a sweetheart. Because we do our own things too its not just about smiling and helping Iotas get the glory.
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I would just advise you to treat people the same way you want to be treated. I admit that some/many Iota sweethearts have taken heat for the negative reputations of other sweets in the NPHC (when we had sweets). I personally have not seen or heard of Iota sweethearts being nuisances and being disrespectful and I've stated this before in other threads and I believe other NPHC sorority members have also. It's not fair that some of you are met with attitudes from sorority members but those sorority members have probably seen and/or heard the many negative things that I saw on my undergrad campus regarding sweets (not including Iota sweets because we didn't have them) and that doesn't make it right but it's also not right for you to judge all sorority members based on the attitudes of some.
On a whole, the problem has never been that the NPHC sororities don't like auxillaries. We all had them at one time, although the sorority groups (such as the Sigma Rhomeos) were never as popular and widely spread. Also, even today there are auxillaries/affiliates that the NPHC orgs legally recognize and respect. Sigma Gamma Rho and Zeta Phi Beta both have auxillaries of adult women. We have the Philo Club. Philos assist the sorority and function as their own organization under the advisement of our alumnae chapters. So the issue has never been about not wanting auxillaries but more about if they were a help or a hindrance to their organization and others. As for the other sweets that were banned in 1990 by the 8 members of the NPHC, it was decided that they were not a help any longer and that they had indeed become nuisances and liabilities.