VP -
I understand that you are offended by the "what her parents do" issue. But I think you are reading too much into it and giving this one teeny tiny bit of info way too much weight in the process. I really have to say that I do not think it is
that prevalent of a topic for recs and/or rec sessions. Like I stated, I have not seen it much at all...but if it IS mentioned in a rec or as part of a girl's identifying info, so be it. It is not the end of the world and definitely not the only reason she is cut or invited back. It is potentially just
one more way to identify her, learn about her, etc.
I am sorry I misquoted you, but I still think to say, "
Every chapter has the right to select their members by any criteria they want, but if that's how you choose your sisters, you deserve what you get." doesn't really foster positive relationships.
I can only comment on my experience with this and the extent (or lack thereof) that this info is used. We can agree to disagree.
