[christiangirl]

Yeah, I guess it depends. I would never lose weight, cut my hair, buy different kinds of clothes, etc. for a guy. My appearance is mine and that's that. But if my bf wanted me to work on sharing more, communicating better, or being more sensitive, well I'd change that for anybody. I'd never intentionally hurt someone, so if those things about me was hurting them, then sure I'd change. The addict thing was very relevant--I would stop drinking around my SO if they needed me not to. I don't drink much anyway, so it's not really a sacrfice. Likewise, if I found out the person I was dating was a smoker, I would most likely end it unless they changed that for me. For health reasons, I can't handle cigarette smoke, so if we were going to get serious, he'd have to choose. But this is one of the first questions I ask a guy, before we even start dating, so hopefully it won't come up.