So I got out with my Fraternity Brother for one drink at the local watering hole.
These girls are there that I have seen before and that work in a local hooters restaraunt (just threw that in there because there was a thread about it).
So they are with a bunch of guys and hanging out while I am drinking a beer with my Bro.
One of them sits next to me and we start talking . . . she's ready to go home, but her friends want to stay. We have a few drinks and start a wide ranging conversation. We play some songs . . her friends want to leave, but she stays anyway. My friend wants to leave, so I tell him goodbye.
We close the bar, its now 4:30AM, we're the last two left. I am being chivalrous so I walk her out to her car and begin to walk away.
She gives me a nice hug and asks for my phone number which she then proceeds to put in her cell phone. I get hers also.
Problem: this was a week ago and I have never called because I have the FLU and feel awful . . how can you call someone you barely know when you are sick?
Also, I didn't realize but I am having cell phone problems and my voice mail and phone have not been on all week. So I have no idea if she tried to call. Or worse she called before it went it down lol.
Now normally I would say the person was at least transiently interested . . . if someone else were telling me the story.
But looking at Trideltgal's thread, where from a guy's viewpoint she totally led him on (not that that is a bad thing).
Which makes me wonder if our situtations are the same.
And also given the sheer amount of time, I am reluctant to call and say, "hi I have been sick but wanted to call". Kind of random.
Also, I can't help thinking that after al this time what little interest that can be generated over a few drinks probably has faded.
I can't speak for women, but guys tend not crush long on a girl and time makes it fade rapidly. (depends on the guy).
So now I am stuck, I would like to call, but I'm still sick so bad company.
So i am thinking that my own insecurities and fears of rejection are going to prevent me from calling.
I would tell someone else: what do you have to lose? Just call and tell the truth, you can't change the past.
And if they kept protesting, I would respond: What is the harder thing to do? Call or not call? Usually the hard thing is the right thing.
And besides why not risk a five minute (possibly painful)phone call that might lead to an indefinitely long good time?
But hey its easy to take the high road with other people!lol
Did I mention that in addition to being traveled and a good conversationalist she was quite atractive even to my exacting standards?
Ok I invite comments, criticisms, questions, and advice.
I also wanted to illustrate another situation where a boy doesn't call but is not game playing.