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There are some changes that I wouldn't have a problem with, if they were like bad habits that I'd probably be better off without anyway (like biting my nails). If I had a serious boyfriend who wanted me to quit doing that, I probably would.
Then there are other things that are part of who I am that can't be negotiated. Things like my introverted personality. If I guy told me that in order for us to be together, we'd have to spend Thursday-Sunday at the bars with his friends, I would break up with him. It's just not part of my personality to go out every night. Or something that is the core of my life like religion, that's another thing I don't negotiate. I'm a Christian. If a guy was like "For us to be together, I want you to never pray, read the bible, or go to church again" I would tell him to kick rocks.
This whole issue is why it's SO important to spend time with a person BEFORE dating them. Go places with them as friends, meet their friends, and see what they're about. The more you know about a person before you date them, the less likely you are to face an issue where the 2 of you are on TOTAL OPPOSITE sides of an issue (i.e. he likes to go out and you know you hate it).
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