Ninjapoodle, good job on the research.... I guess you know a lot about aKDPhi from what it sounds like....
And no I am not part of NPHC... We are recognized but not a part of it. Furthermore, as I said before, you may be deeply in love, but you can show your love for someone else in various ways. I had a boyfriend who was in a fraternity, and if he was wearing his letters, I couldn't hug him. To some people that might be weird, but I understood because I would be touching his letters. In the same aspect, he never hugged me when I had mine on. Reason being was although we loved each other very much our letters represented a part of our lives that did not include the other person. He showed he cared for me in various ways, but I would never want to get pinned/laveliered by him. In doing so, I would feel like I had received his letters without doing anything for them. Without saying what organization he's from, believe me his process was challenging and often times impossible, but he made it... and for me to wear his letters (in any form) would be like saying that just because I'm his love interest, his education process means nothing...