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Originally Posted by Jenriv
I was wondering if it was common for girls to go through recruitment twice if they felt like they did not find their home at a sorority the first time around? What is your opinion on it and what advice do you have for people considering going through recruitment a second time?
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Carnation said it best in asking if anything has changed. You have better grades and friends in chapters. You might have better results this time despite sophomore standing (of course I can't make any promises but I am speculating based on what you told me). I don't think you'd be treated any differently than a sophomore who was rushing for the first time, but understand you may be automatically cut from some chapters based on your sophomore status.
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Originally Posted by Jenriv
Well this year my school had about 150 more girls go through recruitment then previous years. So they did drop a lot of people based on grades but i heard it also depended on who you talked to in the chapters. So it was more of a luck of the draw type of thing. For example you would have more of a chance to be asked back if someone said something good about you that was older and more established member of the sorority rather than someone who just joined the year before. Since going through i have raised my grades, been on the deans list and gotten to know several girls in a couple sororities but i know that its still not a guarantee. I'm just afraid to go through it all again and not have it turn out the way i want. Plus i'll be a sophomore going through so I know that it slims my chances of getting a bid as well.
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In my experience, an older member's opinion isn't necessarily respected more, it's just that older members tend to articulate their opinions better. Either way, don't worry about something that is beyond your control. There are things you can control, like your grades, getting recs (if you go to an SEC, certain Big 10, or Big XII school particularly), conversation skills, meeting sorority women now, etc. Focus on the things you can control.
If you don't go through again, you'll probably wonder "what if". If you really think getting cut from your favorite chapters would be completely devastating, then don't go through for the sake of your mental health. Sure, it's normal to be upset at first, but most people are able to move on and experience other things at their university.
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Originally Posted by Jenriv
At my school it was a four night process and the second day I went back to my Rho Chi to see what chapters I got and I only recieved two call backs from chapters I didnt feel like i clicked with. I still went the second day to the chapters to see if it was just a bad first impression but at the end of the day thought i didnt find my home. So I did not take a bid I decided to drop out after the second day because I knew that those chapters weren't right for me, and I didnt want to take a bid from a girl who really knew they wanted to be there.
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You understand that as a sophomore, you may have fewer choices than a typical freshman. I'd encourage you to keep going with recruitment through preference night even if you are initially unhappy with your choices. As a sophomore at a competitive school (at least you make it sound competitive) this may be your last reasonably good chance.