[PrettyBoy]

I disagree with those of you who said you would give this low down joker a 2nd chance. This applies to a man and a woman, but since the OP is talking about a man, I'll talk about him.

First of all, he doesn't respect or value his relationship with this woman of his. You have to remember that your values are the architecture of who you are as a person. Your values are comprised of what you believe is most important in life, and how you conduct your life in accordance with these beliefs. I even believe that values are sometimes worth living or dying for, and are damn sure worth dating and breaking up over. That's why opening up your values are so critical in a relationship, even though they cover many aspects of your life beyond relationships.

Character is also important in a relationship. This joker doesn't have good character at all. You can tell a lot about character by how a person operates in the world. I think a lot of times people give trifling jokers like this a 2nd chance to keep from being alone. Having a fear of being alone makes you get involved in relationships that are not going to last. It also keeps you from being alone long enough to grow into a person who doesn't have to be in a relationship to be happy. I believe to be happy in a relationship, and to pick the kind of relationship that's going to be the kind you desire, you've got to be happy without one first. If you have to be in a relationship or married in order to be happy, then you are dependent, and you'll never be happy with whatever person you find. What happens here is the dependency keeps you from being selective enough to find the kind of person who will be good for you, or it can keep you from being able to fully realize a good relationship with a healthy person. When I say healthy, I mean a person with good moral character. Someone who respects and values themselves.

Some of you ladies mentioned that you respect his honesty. To me, what he did is not honest at all. OK, so he told her. Who cares? The fact of the matter is he still disrespected her, himself and the relationship. Never, ever commit yourself to someone who is incompatible when it comes to respecting the relationship, while at the same time trusting that they'll see the light and change.

Remember that values are a major part of a relationship, and a man or a woman who doesn't have any regarding his or her relationship is the wrong person to get involved with.