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Originally Posted by AOE2AlphaPhi

My little lived with her boyfriend about 10 minutes from campus. She was very active in the chapter in terms of philanthropy and coming to chapter, but didn't make going out or socializing with the sisters outside of her A Phi family a priority. She deactivated a few weeks ago because she didn't feel like she had made that close a bond with the girls and it was too much money for what was basically a community service club for her. Obviously I'm devastated, especially because I feel like it would have been an extremely valuable experience for her if she had made more of an effort to hang out in the house/go out with us.

This story illustrates an important point. Alot of girls terminate their memberships because they "didn't feel close to everyone b/c they weren't on campus" but made no effort to get close to people.

Making it to campus for sorority events is important, but I think girls should also make time for hanging out with the sisters who live on campus as well. This doesn't mean you need to be on campus everrytime you have a free minute, but go to the house and eat lunch or dinner here, tinvite some on campus sisters to go out to lunch or dinner off campus, or have girls over to your apt./house sometimes to watch movies. It's really easy to attend events, but that's just half of the expereince.