You didn't say so, but I am guessing you are a member of a NPHC organization because of your beliefs. That's fine, I would just like to explain and give a little insight into why some organizations do this. For the most part, pinning is a thing of the past. I actually haven't heard of someone being actually PINNED with a fraternity pin since the sixties and seventies. Nowadays lavaliering is what is acceptable. I know that I would not want to wear my boyfriend's pin because it has special meaning to him, just as my pin has special meaning to me. It is what identifies us as members of our respective organizations. Sororities DO NOT let fraternity men wear their letters. To my knowledge this is strictly a fraternity thing, although some groups may let their Men of the Year or Sweethearts wear them. Alpha Xi Delta doesn't.
Some people abuse lavaliering, and some people just fall out of love. You never know what is going to happen. I've been extremely lucky to still be happy and with my boyfriend. It was such a huge sacrifice for him to let me wear his letters...he had to get up infront of the entire chapter, tell his brothers why he wanted to lavalier me, and then leave while they voted. In most cases they will take the guy out and tie him to a pole in his boxers and leave him there. The girl will be called, told where he is, and if she loves him enough to go get him, them see it as a sign that she's true and loyal to him. They did not do this to my boyfriend, but even if they had I would have been out there in a second because I love him more than anything. Recently a brother asked to lavalier his girlfriend, a girl the brothers didn't trust, so they took him out and tied him to a pole. When his girlfriend was called she wouldn't go out in the cold to get him. Needless to say she was not allowed to be lavaliered. She was seen as unworthy because she obviously didn't love him ehough for the sacrifice he made for her.
I also wear my boyfriend's letters because I am their sweetheart. I have never been so proud to wear the letters of his organization. I do not know the secret workings of his fraternity, but I do have an incredible respect and admiration for their organization. I consider myself a keeper of their traditions as well and I am proud to be involved with such a wonderful and strong organization. Just because they are male and I am female does not mean I don't hold their ideals close to my heart. It doesn't mean I don't know and respect the ideals their fraternity was created on. I would feel honored if I were a fraternity man and my group had a sweetheart or lavalier as completely devoted to them as I am.
I know you say, Why? but I say, Why not? I would be honored to have a female love and respect my organization as much as I did.
There's so many more things I want to say, but I can't think of the words to describe the way I feel about their organization and how proud I am to be associated with it.
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