[TCMJuiceVA]

jon1856: Thanks for the warning, I'll be sure to use kinder and less destabilizing words. I mean no harm to anyone, and for my sake having an open mind with this situation will only help.
Yes, we can rush as much as we want. For second years (sophomores), we have the option of rushing informally in the fall or formally in the spring. I'll probably rush in the spring because its a better opportunity to get to know the brothers. Yes, with all my friends and family in the greek system I was kind of exposed to how to rush when I asked them, but I didn't express much interest until after my first semester. I mean, their best advice was to relax and be yourself. What I missed with these conversations with friends and family is to try and meet as many guys in the house as you can, which kind of hurt me at another fraternity. A problem I ecountered is that since we do a deferred rush in the spring, most places have a sizable number of their pledge class picked out, and many places do lots of dirty rushing. I realised this a bit too late and didn't take advantage of the fact I had these connections in the greek system first semester.

And I mean no harm to your brothers, the ones I know well at the chapter here are great guys and would enjoy nothing more than receiving a bid from them. I want to be involved in greek life, but I would only pledge somehwere I will be happy at, not just to join a fraternity.

RaggedyAnn: He's an active at another school, and my cousin thats an alumni is his (biological) brother who graduated from the same school. I did not ask either to write me recommendations, but if things at this chapter improve their input may help.