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I think I need to explain other scenarios to make sense out of this...

The 14 of us just recently crossed (April 2001) and this would have been the first wedding for our line. All of us except for one were in state and could have gone. I know some other Sorors (aside from my LS) who weren't too particularly happy when they got the invite for the shower and not the wedding.

To my understanding it was not explained to some of our line and other Sorors why they didn't receive an invitation. Had that been me I would have invited everyone, including the one out of state because sometimes there are folks who you know aren't going to show up but they still want an invitation. Also I look at the invitation as an announcement that I'm getting married.

BUT I wasn't the one getting married so it's easy for me to say what I would do. At the same time, I knew my LS's (the one who got married) financial situation. Sistagirl did not have the room nor the money to invite all of us and it was obvious when we went to the wedding. It was not an elaborate wedding and no more than 50 people were in attendance so I'm assuming she invited those who she knew would show up.
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Three love you had some good points, especially about us being Sorors/LINESISTERS doesn't mean we are going to be friends.

c&c it is true that some folks have showers so they can "rack up" on the gifts. Fortunately this wasn't the case. When I spoke with her about who she wanted to invite she honestly said that she doesn't think it would be too many people since she has been out of the scene.

BOTTOMLINE...I've noticed that when folks get married, have a baby they might include or exclude folks for various reasons (financial situation, timing, not close with certain folks, etc.). Unless I truly can't stand you or just don't like you (which is not the case with any of my LS), then I won't support you. BUT what I will do is to try and support you in your endeavors. That is what sisterhood is about. I know it sounds corny and maybe that's my neo in me talking but time is too short to be mad at folks. It would have been nice if the whole line would have participated in the shower but I have to respect my LS and Sorors decision and move on. Sometimes we have to put stuff aside and just be.

WHEW, I think I said a mouthful. Thanks for you responses.