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Originally Posted by TSteven
In addition to what others have said, I saw the following situation more than a few times. A brother would be dating someone at another school and their "steady" was unable to attend. The Sweetheart (someone both he *and* his steady trusts) helps him get a date. Someone he might know as a friend and could go to the function and have a good time without any worry about "hooking up". This is much better than him ending up with some random girl that may not have his best interest (much less his girlfriend's) in mind.
Among other reasons, Sweethearts are elected because of their friendship with members of the chapter. As such, most help their friends (chapter members) out of the genuine goodness of their heart. I would hope that a woman would be able to do so (help her friends) and not be viewed as being used or as some sort of a dating service.
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You're not getting it... If a guy has a steady girlfriend and she can't go to the formal, why the heck would he take someone else? Even if she can't go and is cool with him taking a non-romantic date, what the heck kind of guys is the group taking if there's a chance that he chooses his own date that he'll hook up with her? Why would the Sweetheart choosing make it less likely that he'd hook up with his date? Is she going out of her way to choose ugly or awkward women? Why would a member in a relationship automatically take a "random girl" that "may not have his best interest in mind" if he chooses his own date? That just speaks to the poor taste of YOUR members, not the skills and kindness of the Sweetheart.
Furthermore, I think a lot of us are asking, why is it the Sweetheart's job to get him a date? No offense, but what if your fraternity bids a weirdo or something? Does the Sweetheart have to go with him to every formal then, assuming he can't get a date?
None of the orgs at my school had sweethearts and I'm not much liking the sound of them. It sounds lame... I sure as heck would not want to be sweetheart if I'm going to have to find lame guys dates or something. I know you're actually trying to defend the idea that sweethearts are classy and not groupies but actually your words are making me think that they ARE. But I don't have any experience with it so who knows?