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Are you required to attend mixers? Or is there a point system for ativities? The good thing about social events is that they're rarely required. On the other hand, the less time you spend with the chapter, the less you're going to like them. And every chapter is different, but in mine, if you can show up for a party you can show up for chapter. Work before play and all of that.
You aren't going to be friends with everyone in your chapter. That's a lot of girls, and you can't possibly click with ALL of them. In fact, you're VERY lucky that you have no major conflicts at all. Just looking at it from a common sense standpoint, usually a group of over 100 girls is going to have a few issues. My best friends aren't even in my sorority. But I still love my sisters. Just because you aren't best friends with most of the girls in your chapter doesn't mean you aren't going to get sisterhood. I feel like a sister and know I can depend on my sisters and that they can call me if they need me without being BFF-4EVER and all of that with them.
Another thing is, my 5 close friends in it aren't SUPER active, well 2 are active but abroad, 1 is decently active and 2 are not very active. So I hate going to events and not having my close group there which makes me not want to go to anything, so now I feel like I might as well not pay for going to nothing. The older you get the harder it is to get close to the incoming pledge classes, but that's ok too.
It sounds like you just don't try very hard. Making friends requires effort. If you put more in you'd get more out.
It sounds like you've already made up your mind and want people to reassure you. Most people here aren't going to encourage you to quit. I think it's a bad idea, myself. A little more effort could make a huge difference, and if you're a junior or senior, what's the point in quitting now? I'm not as "into" my chapter as I was as a freshman and sophomore, but I'd never be able to quit, personally. Sisterhood is sisterhood, and I've put too much into the chapter to want to leave it. It's a small thing to pay dues and go to chapter meetings.
Maybe put the same effort you put into your other friends into this new pledge class. You'll be amazed at how more included you'll feel. The freshmen always want older sisters to like them, and they'll really appreciate the attention you'll give them.
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