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Originally Posted by QuietStorm236
My husband just joined your fraternity. I am not greek. How do I fight this feeling of exclusion, now that he has a whole new world of line brothers , protocols and acquaintances that I know nothing about?
I am proud of his accomplishment, but can't help but feel like an outsider now.
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My husband is not greek. But he is a graduate of Morehouse College. He was very familiar of all the NPHC fraternities. In fact is mother and father are part of the Blue-Phi family (Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Inc.-Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc.)
I come from a very strong Phirst Phamily (Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc-Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.)
I concur with what everyone has already told you, I think you can benefit from some research on your husband's fraternal history. It needs to be your pursuit. Because it seems that the more you learn from your husband about his choices, the more you will see why he choose to pursue Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc.
You see the parties and the carousing... But in closed meetings, you might not witness, there would be wonderful community plans... Hey, I saw extraordinary Omega men who stood in as family during a wedding I shared with one of my Sorority sisters and an Omega brother.
My husband has difficulties with my chapter duties, but then hey, I can imagine many of my Sorority sister's husbands' ask questions and my Sorors husband's are greek!!!
But, my parents tell me that their involvement can be balanced. I don't see how right now, mainly both of my folks are off and running to chapter activities EVERY weekend!!! But the kids are out of my folks house...
For a young family, I would think the chapter needs to organize or collaborate on more "family friendly" activities... That can EASILY happen...
Just never ask me about when the Alpha brothers decided to help Santa Claus build my toys when I was little girl and sing Silent Night... That inflatable jumping ball never worked after that...