[imsohappythatiama]

Molly:

Although I am a little sad about the road you took to get here, welcome to Kappa!

Someday you are going to look back at all of this and laugh, because in the end, it doesn't matter what happened at XO. You may think you know why you were cut, but in the end, you will never know the full story unless you were in the room on that night of voting.

Hell, I have been Rush chair at one University and Rush Advisor at two Universities, and sometimes I don't even know why a girl gets cut. Sometimes it just happens--and you can't rationalize it in the same way that you can't control it. So don't sweat it, and don't torture yourself with "what ifs" because, sweetheart, IT WASN'T MEANT TO BE.

So many women go through Rush looking for a chapter that can make something of them--that can get them a cuter boyfriend, a prettier house, a nicer closet full of clothes to borrow, votes for homecoming queen, etc. Hey, we've ALL done it at one time or another.

But what, in the end, what HOLDS VALUE after you've left college, and have a husband and maybe a few kids and some stretch marks and wrinkles is this: what your chapter helped you make of YOURSELF.

Because as we say in Kappa, in the very end a sorority can only be a better way to stumble down the back steps and out the front door.

All of this has made me think of an old Kappa song that I've always loved:

Not thy key oh Kappa
Not thy fleur-de-lis
These are only symbols
Of what you mean to me.

There is something deeper
Than thy flower or key
That must be the meaning
Of fraternity.

Molly, I sincerely hope that you will find that "something deeper," (be patient, it can take time!) and I wish you the lifelong joy that I have found in being a Kappa sister.

Loyally,

imsohappythatiama

PS--We'd love to see you around the KKG forum!


...and above all I shall remain womanly and true.