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Originally Posted by RedRover
A young woman I know is in a situation and would like some advice . . . .
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Originally Posted by RedRover
. . . I truly believe that she has her future brother-in-law's best interest at heart. . . .
I sincerely believe that she wants to spare the young man any pain that might arise.
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I agree with everyone else. If she really wants advice and she sincerely cares about her future brother-in-law and wants to spare him whatever pain she can, then she should either (1) give him the benefit of her experience by giving him whatever encouragement and helpful advice she can, or (2) keep her mouth shut.
She can't save him from the pain of how others might react to or judge him, nor would it really be in his best interests for her to try. But she can save him from the pain of knowing how
she judges him. Being rejected by strangers wouldn't be nearly as painful as knowing that his brother's new wife thinks "he is the type of guy you would fix up your roommate with for the April Fools Day dance."