Hmmm....well, I won't go into a tirade because I figure you just wrote half that stuff to geta reaction.
With regards to your fraternity brother who got cheated on, I hate to let you in on this little secret but college isn't exactly a breeding ground for healthy, respectful relationships. Further, the fact is that many more men than women are unfaithful. Go into any sorority house (or classroom for that matter)and ask how many women have been cheated on vs. how many have cheated. I think you would be surprised. I also think that maybe that the maturity of the women (and men) you know is the major reason why you have such a bad impression of women and what they want. Give it a few years and I think you'll be in a very different spot.
It sounds like unfortunately you have had some bad experiences, so I can understand your skepticism. But don't place labels on women in general. That could be part of the problem you're having. You expect the worst and seem to be getting it. How are you expecting to have a reasonably healthy relationship when you're priority is playing games?
As far as women liking Bad boys who treat them like shit, that's what a lot of men like to think, for some reason. I don't know any women who enjoy being treated like crap and who go looking for it. Well, I'm sure there are women who like that but they're usually on Jerry Springer or Jenny Jones and have major issues. So basically, I think that assumption a poor misconception that a lot of men use to explain why they are single. :rolleyes
In any case, good luck!