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33girl is correct, you can not accept a bid of any kind until Spring 2009. Since you can't go through formal in the fall, your only choices next spring will be groups that aren't at total, and could very well be the same choices you had this year. The next time you will be eligible for formal recruitment, you will be a junior. Sure, you'll get to go to all 20 (?) chapters, but as a junior, your choices after the first round and subsequent rounds will almost certainly be fewer than the freshmen in your group.

I hope you don't have your heart set on a "top tier" chapter, because your only chance with them may be to be BFF with like 20 people in the chapter, have a 4.0, and killer involvement on campus. Even those things might not be enough to offset the fact that you'll be a junior, and a depledged junior at that. I'm sure juniors get bids at Penn State, but juniors will have significantly fewer choices. You might be looking at the same pool of choices you had for spring informal recruitment as a junior in the fall. Since you're probably not going to "have your pick" in any subsequent recruitments in which you will be eligible, you should really try to find your niche in the chapter and grow close to sisters and your pledge sisters by spending time with them before you depledge.

Reach out to sisters in your chapter. Talk with your new member educator, and your big or temporary big, or with any older sister you trust. I wouldn't say, "Oh, I am thinking about depledging, I just don't see myself here." Emphasize that you don't feel connected, and that you want to spend time with sisters (outside of organized events). By all means, go to as many organized events as you can, and make an effort to hang out with your new member class.

I remember having a conversation with a sister of mine that really turned me off. She joined in spring (we do formal) as a sophomore. She had gone through recruitment as a freshman, but dropped out. She lamented that she had been cut from XYZ because her GPA was low back then (it's much better now), and how it sucked, blah blah blah. It made me feel like she was settling to be my sister, and that she really wanted XYZ, or felt like she would have been an XYZ if it weren't for her freshman grades or sophomore status the following year. She is still a member, and has found her niche in the chapter. Even if you feel this way, don't act like or say things that sound like you think you are too good for your chapter.