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ZHBeta, I agree with you as I have often felt that same struggle. I also agree with coramoor and ee-bo that it is a difficult situation. In my more niave beta days, I even called those people out saying that I don't consider them brothers. I realize now that that was wrong.
There is a reason why those "undeserving" brothers were invited to join your chapter, and a reason why they chose to join. I hope they were for the right reasons. As a member of the chapter, your job is not to immediately cut the fat, but push and aide your "brothers" towards the Beta pride that is necessary to be a true brother. Instead of pushing them away, you need to get them to remember why they joined Beta and really discover what they love about the fraternity. Often times they lose their "enthusiasm" because the chapter is not going in the direction they want, or they feel they cannot participate in the way they wish. Talk to those guys. Ask them what missing. Asking them why they arn't "brothers" and fix it! If you do not try, then you are not committing to the same value that coramoor eluded to that you took an oath to uphold. Its hard, and it difficult, but that's how you know its the right choice. Cutting them out may be necessary down the road, but that is the easy way out.
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