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Originally Posted by UGAalum94
I was kidding about the mother and grandmother comment for the most part; it was just thrown in to pretend I was addressing the topic of the thread. I intended it to be along the lines of someone being dumb enough to say something bad about someone's mother. I think it would be a bit odd to bring up someone's mom or grandmother, but there wouldn't be a reason, if topical, that moms and gmoms are specifically off limits. I agree that most fraternity men want to pledge other men who would treat the female members of their families with great respect.
I wouldn't recommend anyone use the word sorostitute. As I said in my first post, I'm not a fan of the term, and I don't see how it really behooves any member associated with Greek life to perpetuate bad stereotypes, but the kids these days, some of them who bear women no ill will, are using the term quite a bit. If we were on campus to hear the current undergrads, I think we'd spend a lot of time being offended.
I think any person going through rush should be even more cautious than the people who are members of a group although I think they should be careful too. To some degree, I think if a rusher used the term in conversation with a PNM, it might actually be kind of test to see if the PNM believed the stereotype, and it might reflect on her very poorly if she picked the term up and made a joke herself. ETA: I think this would also be true for men going through rush.
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Bingo!
I have seen these "tests" used as a way to "weed out" rushees. As such, some members are actually "happy" when some high school kid comes in and uses this or any other offense term. Similar to what people have been posting here about what not to wear. They pretty much know right then and there that this is one less guy to rush.
This is why many people are an advocate of telling rushees to "be yourself". They want to know about the person they might bid and end up calling brother. As such, is this guy some sort of yahoo who does not know how to act appropriately for the particular college environment? (college environment differs college to college) Frankly, how they act during rush can be an indicator on how they might present themselves out in "real" society. And how they represent the fraternity.
Again, many fraternities require yet another vote prior to initiation. So unless you are desperate for numbers, why bid a guy that you know you are going to black ball later? Better to cut them during rush than spend time trying to change them. Pledge those that are worthy.