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I'm sorry to hear that your daughter did not get a bid. As for whether they are "done" with her, I really think that this is a case of "recruitment as a numbers game". She wasn't high enough to match when she suicided in the fall, but she was on their bid list. Somebody with some pull had to have liked her to invite her to the COB party. If they could only take 5 women through COB, and they invited 10, well, obviously not all of those women get bids.

If your daughter still wants to be in a sorority, she should try again next fall, but she should try to be open to more chapters (perhaps the one(s) where she attended preference but did not rank). I don't know which school she attends, and therefore how kind or rough her school is to sophomores.

My chapter never called women who didn't get bids during informal. Face it, who wants to have the conversation "Um, sorry, you weren't offered a bid".