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Originally Posted by isheshx
Hey, so umm. Okay. Here goes. My boyfriend is a pledge at Alpha Sigma Phi and , greek week is next week etc etc.
I'm really new to this whole environment, and so far from the people that I've met in his house, I'm not fond of them. They grope, and drug, and take advantage of, and treat women like they're nothing.
I grew up with reformed "hippie" parents, quite literally, and this whole conformity thing is something that I'm not very good at. I love John (my boyfriend) with all my heart, and I understand and respect that Sig will take up a lot of his time. But it does feel like he chooses his house over me.
Do you have any advice as to how to better deal with this? I don't want to lose him, but I don't like being put on the back burner either.
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If he really loves you and is mature enough to handle it all, you won't be put on the backburner for too long. He will become a member, hang out with his brothers, and learn how to balance it all in the process.
I'm more interested in the asswipes that are in that chapter. Just know that you don't have to bite your tongue when it comes to keeping your boyfriend's antics in check. He might think he's being "a man" or being a "fraternity guy" when he does some of the things he might do to fit in. Just let him know it's not unacceptable. Period. If his fraternity brothers act up in your presence let your boyfriend know that he needs to check them--or YOU will check them the next time it happens. Whatever's whatever.